Wednesday, 7 March 2012

Bullies, stalkers and the Amazon forum

I've been around fora and chats for while and know it can get rather heated. People who live in the computer instead of having real, living and breathing friends are an odd breed. At least those who think the anonymity of the Internet gives them a free pass for bullying. Those are the ones, who wouldn't be able to say a word to someone in person, but hey, in the safety of their home, perhaps some drinks involved and they turn into real monsters.

Heated discussions are good; they are healthy, they are necessary for us to see other point of views, but not everyone can discuss on a neutral level. There's attacks like, 'You're full of shit!'
I wonder why someone feels the need to resolve to such matters? Especially authors, who should have a way with words.
Yesterday, I've been called a stupid author of a poorly written book who's into animal cruelty and been advised to go back to where I come from and that quickly.
Made me laugh, because two posts later, the poster admitted to not  have downloaded said book, hence not read it. She's a friend of said author telling people they are full of shit and she didn't like it when I raised my concerns. Said author also told me I should get a sense of humour. I guess he also didn't read my book. Oh well.

Personally, I don't interact with people like that. I do swear like a sailor, sure and I have called people arsehole in my life, yes, but I wouldn't dare doing that just because I disagree with them. It's normal to disagree and I think we humans should be smart enough to discuss on a civilised level. I also don't react to stalkers. I will let people know when I've got enough of their escapades and ignore them -- no losses there.

If I have a heated debate about something with my friends, I won't stand up and shout at them they are idiots or they have issues or don't know what they're talking about. I'll explain my viewpoint and hope they'll understand. I think I've never seen so many bullies than they are online. It's a bit like weed, they just spread and spread and if don't thin them out regularly, they'll take over. 


  1. You get trolls in writing forums? That's hilarious! I thought they only infected political blogs. I'm glad they don't bother you, Stella. On the subject of swear words, I'd love to see you do a post on German swear words!

  2. I'm consistently amazed by the bad manners and unprofessional behavior some authors show in forums. Well, good for you for taking the high road. I am sorry you have to deal with trolls, though.

  3. I was looking at one of the strings on Amazon a couple of days ago and saw your name Stella. I started reading it. Some of the nasty comments made by the spotty cretins, reminded me of a similar 'hatefest'aimed at me a couple of years back over my first published sci-fi novel. They hadn't even read it and yet they tore it apart. If you want my advice, stay well away from the forum on Amazon. It is the natural habitat of total creeps. :)

  4. Oh, I'm fine. If anything I'm amused and bemused. They can rip my book apart as much as they like, then can call me names, if that's what they need to feel better. Others go for a run, they need to let off steam on fora. They discredit themselves, not me.

    I just don't respond to such comments and I also don't need people who come to my aid, no need for it. I'm a big girl and can take care of myself. Trolls get fed on reactions and many can't let go, that's when it gets nasty. If nobody would react, they'd die out.

    Gorilla, you naughty little thing: you just want to learn German swear words to brag with them. Haha.
    I swear in English, you see? :-) I think swearing in English is so much more effective. One of my favourits: cunt! Love it.

  5. No one bullies me....cause I tell them I know Zorro.

    I like that you take the high road,Stella...*s*

    1. haha. Zorro's the biggest bully of all. I always call him a bully, because of his typical alpha male behaviour. So funny, but for many it's rather intimidating, but then, that's what it's for.